Feed My Lambs
Scrolling, you’ll see I have a contemplative message to
share with you today. But before I do, may I take a minute to show you what’s
been on my needles?
This month I got around to sewing up the summer skirt I had cut out of a pale blue-green calico months
prior. There were just enough warm afternoons left for a week of wear.
I added a ruffle of a coordinating print. Then, because this
left a slightly puckered seam, I hid the seam with a pleat, and then another
pleat to make the whole hem appear intentional. It turned out to my liking,
imperfections, length, and all.
Blue-green is a color that is difficult to match in a T. A
lighter version of the color would have matched more satisfactory to my tastes
but I knew I had a darker shade of blue-green in my clothes closet before I
purchased the calico.
Red yarn rested snug in my stash for too long. This summer I
set my sites on using it up. Content with my stand-by cable pattern (that’s
proved itself time and again) and happy with how the size 2 Donegal Tweed fit a
two-year-old grandson in 2010 (cute-y here pictured) I am now making another.
This time a size 6 is on my needles for his brother – but in
a washable wool blend. My, how fast little boys grow! Anyway, the pattern has
just enough diversity-of-rows to make it interesting while being uncomplicated
enough to allow ease of conversation with whoever is in the room. My aim is to
have it presentable by Christmas.
I closed the last page of Miss Clare Remembers with a
sentimental farewell, then whizzed through Miss Potter because its author Richard Maltby
Jr. carries the reader along almost as swiftly as the film – which makes sense
since he wrote the script for it. (Due to comments of a private nature made by
Miss Warne in the art gallery, and other details excluded from the film, this book is not for children.) I recommend the film over the book, in this case. I borrow the DVD from our church library, now and again, for the story but also to savor the closing scenes of the Lake District.
The Chief Business of a Mother
Here is another tool for bringing up children.
What is the chief business of a mother? Is it to be a taxi
driver for her children, a law-giver, a laundry-maid, a cook, a home decorator, a fashion
assistant, a photographer, a birthday and holiday organizer?
The chief business of a mother is to be an inspirer.
Before His ascension our Lord Jesus told the apostle Peter
to “Feed My lambs.” *1 God has chosen loving mothers and fathers for this
important work. We are not empty-handed. We have a tool. It’s “a life of
ideas.” Miss Charlotte Mason trusted the mother at home to sustain the inner
life of a child with ideas as she
sustains the child’s body with food. This is how children grow in wisdom and
stature and in favor with God and man.
“What’s an idea?” you might ask. Well, here’s one way to
look at it. An idea is like a watermelon pit. A little boy bites into a thick
slice of watermelon. It is so juice-y that he gulps it down instantly and then
realizes that he swallowed a watermelon pit. With large, round eyes and a tinge
of anxiety, he looks up into his father’s face and asks, “Dad, I swallowed a
pit! What’s gonna happen to me?”
Dad teases. “A big watermelon is going to grow and grow in
your stomach until it gets this big,” he
says with arms wide.
An inspiring idea isn’t stagnant. It may start as small as a
seed. But then it grows. If it’s a good idea it nourishes and vitalizes. Ideas
and their naturally occurring associations, come to children through various
means;
through observing nature,
recognizing beauty,
appreciating art and melody;
through the rhythmic movement of their games,
through handicrafts,
good conversation,
a Sunday sermon, etc.
When people asked pastor’s wife, Edith Schaeffer, “What’s
your advice about bringing up children? What did you do?" she said, “If there is
any one thing I would stress . . . it
would be this: I read aloud to the children, both individually and together.”
Mrs. Schaeffer believed that sharing ideas in the family circle is one of the
most beneficial and close “togetherness-things” we can do.*2
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Ideas are found in books, most importantly. Of these,
children need quality and quantity. Through books, written by enthusiastic
authors, we give children what the apostle Paul in Philippians recommends.*3
Books supply us with something pure, lovely, noble and just, to think about.
They do the teaching for us.
Speak the Truth with
Hope
The maturing child sees that this fallen world is not all
sweetness. Therefore, we must reach for books that accompany life’s hard truths
with hope. During the confusing and scary week of 911, Fred Rogers of Mr. Roger’s
Neighborhood appeared on public television with a message. He said to children,
“Look at the helpers.” This is what his own mother taught him. In life and in
books, we look at the helpers.
And we look for the heroes.
And we look for the heroes.
Heroes are the basis of our religious life. The heroes of
the Bible – those faithful ones -
are a cloud of witnesses to inspire us.
In literature we find adventure, sorrow and sin – and
perhaps those who take pleasure in sin - but we should also meet large-hearted
characters that comfort, protect, correct, bring joy and reconcile.
In history we meet those who destroy and oppress. Therefore,
the history books we give children should also include those brave souls who
build, defend, and minister the gospel. Who are these brave people? What were
they like?
Science seeks to discover how the world works. If it is not
only self-seeking it will rise to meet the challenge of relieving hardship and
sickness. It is inspiring to meet the inventors and healers. Who are these
curious, perseverant people? What did they accomplish?
Pass the Torch
Inspiration comes by way of those who uncover truth and pass
on the flaming torch of ideas (especially needed in dark places). Someday our
children may be one of the torchbearers, the helpers and the heroes of the next
generation. Whatever is noble, true and pure should be considered and
appreciated because it all comes from God, whether it is delivered to us by a
believer or an unbeliever.
It's a pity when a child has no one to look up to. This
child suffers a great loss. He becomes dull, complacent, and thinks, “Why
bother?” Any amount of hero-admiration is good for us. Not only does it pull us
up out of the dull-drums with its little sparks of enthusiasm, but it changes a “why bother?” into a “let's go for it.”
We can get caught up in ourselves. But it only takes a
little hero-admiration to alleviate concept. Teens can get caught up in
themselves. But if they care about others to the point of admiring them, then
they will waste less time admiring themselves.
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What happens when we feed our lambs? Inspiration can be a
personal and quiet thing. When a child admires someone, he will notice things
about this special person that he, himself, is lacking. He may become conscious
of his frailties or inexperience, yet –
at the same time – his admiration stimulates a desire in him to become more
like his hero.
Set the Table
Children are a mixed bunch. Just like we spread the table
with a variety of healthy foods, let’s spread the table with differing ideas,
because we do not know which our child will choose to care about. In
Ecclesiastes we read, “In the morning sow your seed [or watermelon pits]. And in the evening do not withhold your hand; For
you do not know which will prosper.” *4
A Hero Face-to-Face
My husband, Dean Andreola, worked at the Christian Bookseller
Conventions back in the hay-day of publishing. As a perk, he got to meet
Christian authors and singers. One year a long line of
people waited to meet a popular, flamboyant vocalist, to get her autograph.
There was no line for astronaut Jim Irwin. In fact, there was no one there
at all. Born in 1956, astronauts were Dean’s heroes. The television seems to
have been invented and widely in use (in his boyhood) just in time for America to
watch (live) the moon landings. Therefore, Dean was excited to walk up Jim Irwin to meet a man, face-to-face, who flew in a rocket ship to the moon.
Mr. Irwin penned his name on a photograph and handed it to Dean. It reads,
“Dean, Jesus walking on the earth is more important than man walking on
the moon.”
A true hero lives for, and points to, the greatest hero of
all (of Whom one day we will meet face-to-face.)
End Notes
*1 John 21:15
*2 Edith
Schaeffer, The Hidden Art of Homemaking,
Tyndale House Pubs., pg 152
*3 Philippians
4:8-9
*4 Ecclesiastes
11:6
Some of the paragraphs in this post were adapted from
earlier posts here on Moments with Mother Culture.
Thank you for your visit. Write anytime.
Karen Andreola
karenjandreola@gmail.com